Two are always better than one

Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labour: If either of them falls down, one can help the other up. But pity anyone who falls and has no one to help them up. Also, if two lie down together, they will keep warm. But how can one keep warm alone? Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken. -Ecclesiastes 4:9-12 (NIV)

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Changing yourself for the better is always celebratory. Changes could be feasible when strategies for changes are applied together with discipline and evaluation.

BEING the change is even better but not as easy. Being the change in an organisation is even harder.

Organisations have set habits, behaviours and cultures that can cause resistance to change unless put under huge pressure. And even so, sometimes, organisations still fail in adapting to changes. Sometimes, the past successes of the organisation could be the very hindrance to changes as they underpin their identity. Yet if a change is required for adaptation and growth,  it could be powerful and yield substantial rewards.

Many factors and circumstances are required for changes to happen. But one thing I know for sure. Two are better than one….A cord of three strands is not quickly broken (Ecclesiastes 4). Having a group of like-minded people who share the same values, vision and the ups and downs; who are there for each other no matter what happens would make any difficult journey worthwhile. Two are always better than one.

Hearty Episode

Hearty episode with my helper this afternoon.

I was having difficulty in buttoning up a top, so I went to Jen for help.

Jen: That’s a really nice top

Me: Thank you. I love it too.

Jen: When you get married, the buttons will be your husband’s.

When I turned around and looked at her in the eye, they were lit up and she had a wide smile on her face.

This is love. She wants the best for me. And so do I.

Be the change you wish to see

The famous quote by Gandhi, ‘You must be the change you wish you see in the world.’ For many years, I haven’t fully understood the quote. Mainly because I didn’t care enough. In fact, I would say I used to be quite an indifferent person.

Until one day, for whatever reason, I started to care. I started to realise there are things in my own world that are not doing well.

So what do we do? Out of human nature, I started off with complaining. But when one evaluates (click here to see my previous post) the situation, one would soon realise that another ounce of complaint would not change the situation, if not make it worse. In fact, since I am in the world, I am guilty of the undesirable situation.

Rather than complaining and indulging in self-pity, take ownership and be the change you wish to see.

So I started to BE the change.

You can do something today, to change the world you’re in.

 

Wait upon the Lord

“I wait for the LORD, my whole being waits, and in his word I put my hope.”

‭‭Psalm‬ ‭130:5‬ ‭NIV‬‬

Life can seem to be full of frustrations and discouragements at times. But wait upon the Lord. He will make the weary go strong and renew their strength.

Dwell on His words. For He is faithful and trustworthy. He will raise the lowly when the time comes.

Linear Learning

Very often, people think that learning is a linear process. Learn a bunch of facts and you get an A. Simplifying the processes of learning seems to check off your list quicker but this reduction learning has been costly.

The world is very complex and this linear model of learning seemed to be insufficient in representing the complexity of the reality. Hence, the learning that we are training students for is failing to prepare students for the real world.

Learning is messy.

We need to start thinking about learning differently. Training students to practice expecting problems, extending and refining existing ‘facts’ and knowledge. Simply training students skills in an isolated manner would be difficult to develop them to be well-rounded individuals.

 

Give and Gain

One person gives freely, yet gains even more; another withholds unduly, but comes to poverty. -Proverbs 11:24

Many people work really hard in order to support their families and most importantly have a comfortable and early retirement.
Imaginative dialogue:
Me: You work so hard to earn more money now. So what would you do during your retirement?
Workaholics: Spend time with family and friends, perhaps travel to places, here and there.
Me: But I am already doing those things.

The proverb verse presented today is in total contradiction to what the world tells us. Is it better if we had more possessions? How is it that a person gains even more when one gives. What are the gains? What are the losses? What really matters to you at the end of the day? Possessions? Fame? Relationships?

Having the end in mind will help us in making wiser decisions today.

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All about words

A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger. -Proverbs 15:1 (NIV)

There are two pairs of opposites here. Gentle and harsh. Turns away and stirs up.

When is the last time you intentionally give a gentle response during an argument? Did it turn away wrath?

Your words carry power.

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Guard Your Heart

 

Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it. Proverbs 4:23 (NIV)

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Why is it important to guard your heart? Because things don't just happen overnight. Every action we take sprouts from a single thought. But your heart does not merely mean thoughts and emotions but also your identity and character. Your heart is essentially who you are.

Here are three main ways to guard our heart.

Speech–Watch our speech. One way to know someone's heart is by observing what they consistently talk about. They can hide their true thoughts for awhile but not for long. Make it a habit to actively listen to what others are saying (including our own speech). It can be a great indicator of who we are and what we always think about.

Sight–Know where you are going. We are bombarded with tonnes of news and information nowadays, many of which are garbage and have nothing to do with what we want to achieve, or even distract us. Fix your eyes on the goal so you know where you heading towards. (that does not mean not enjoying the process, you may check out my previous post; happy to discuss further)

Step–Watch where we go. Evaluate ourselves regularly in order to check if we are heading towards the direction that we intend to. If not, we need to make adjustments to make sure we are back on the right track.

Guarding your heart is simple but nothing good comes without hard work. Fail to plan means plan to fail. Start guarding your heart today by practising those three steps.

Keep learning!

Intentional accidents

There's no accidents.

I don't believe in accidents. I think there's always something we can learn from in everything.

One way to do that is to ask ourselves questions.
What I am learning here?
How am I reacting to the incident?
Why am I reacting that way?
How would I like myself to react if similar things occur again?

These questions will help us intentionally learn from the expected AND the unexpected, understand more about ourselves and guide us to live more fulfilling lives.