Hearty episode with my helper this afternoon.
I was having difficulty in buttoning up a top, so I went to Jen for help.
Jen: That’s a really nice top
Me: Thank you. I love it too.
Jen: When you get married, the buttons will be your husband’s.
When I turned around and looked at her in the eye, they were lit up and she had a wide smile on her face.
This is love. She wants the best for me. And so do I.
The famous quote by Gandhi, ‘You must be the change you wish you see in the world.’ For many years, I haven’t fully understood the quote. Mainly because I didn’t care enough. In fact, I would say I used to be quite an indifferent person.
Until one day, for whatever reason, I started to care. I started to realise there are things in my own world that are not doing well.
So what do we do? Out of human nature, I started off with complaining. But when one evaluates (click here to see my previous post) the situation, one would soon realise that another ounce of complaint would not change the situation, if not make it worse. In fact, since I am in the world, I am guilty of the undesirable situation.
Rather than complaining and indulging in self-pity, take ownership and be the change you wish to see.
So I started to BE the change.
You can do something today, to change the world you’re in.
“I wait for the LORD, my whole being waits, and in his word I put my hope.”
Psalm 130:5 NIV
Life can seem to be full of frustrations and discouragements at times. But wait upon the Lord. He will make the weary go strong and renew their strength.
Dwell on His words. For He is faithful and trustworthy. He will raise the lowly when the time comes.
Very often, people think that learning is a linear process. Learn a bunch of facts and you get an A. Simplifying the processes of learning seems to check off your list quicker but this reduction learning has been costly.
The world is very complex and this linear model of learning seemed to be insufficient in representing the complexity of the reality. Hence, the learning that we are training students for is failing to prepare students for the real world.
Learning is messy.
We need to start thinking about learning differently. Training students to practice expecting problems, extending and refining existing ‘facts’ and knowledge. Simply training students skills in an isolated manner would be difficult to develop them to be well-rounded individuals.
One person gives freely, yet gains even more; another withholds unduly, but comes to poverty. -Proverbs 11:24
Many people work really hard in order to support their families and most importantly have a comfortable and early retirement.
Me: You work so hard to earn more money now. So what would you do during your retirement?
Workaholics: Spend time with family and friends, perhaps travel to places, here and there.
Me: But I am already doing those things.
The proverb verse presented today is in total contradiction to what the world tells us. Is it better if we had more possessions? How is it that a person gains even more when one gives. What are the gains? What are the losses? What really matters to you at the end of the day? Possessions? Fame? Relationships?
Having the end in mind will help us in making wiser decisions today.
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A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger. -Proverbs 15:1 (NIV)
There are two pairs of opposites here. Gentle and harsh. Turns away and stirs up.
When is the last time you intentionally give a gentle response during an argument? Did it turn away wrath?
Your words carry power.
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Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it. –Proverbs 4:23 (NIV)
Why is it important to guard your heart? Because things don't just happen overnight. Every action we take sprouts from a single thought. But your heart does not merely mean thoughts and emotions but also your identity and character. Your heart is essentially who you are.
Here are three main ways to guard our heart.
Speech–Watch our speech. One way to know someone's heart is by observing what they consistently talk about. They can hide their true thoughts for awhile but not for long. Make it a habit to actively listen to what others are saying (including our own speech). It can be a great indicator of who we are and what we always think about.
Sight–Know where you are going. We are bombarded with tonnes of news and information nowadays, many of which are garbage and have nothing to do with what we want to achieve, or even distract us. Fix your eyes on the goal so you know where you heading towards. (that does not mean not enjoying the process, you may check out my previous post; happy to discuss further)
Step–Watch where we go. Evaluate ourselves regularly in order to check if we are heading towards the direction that we intend to. If not, we need to make adjustments to make sure we are back on the right track.
Guarding your heart is simple but nothing good comes without hard work. Fail to plan means plan to fail. Start guarding your heart today by practising those three steps.
People always give us feedback.
It's a matter of whether we are aware of, subsequently listen to it or not.
Listen to your feedback.
There's no accidents.
I don't believe in accidents. I think there's always something we can learn from in everything.
One way to do that is to ask ourselves questions.
What I am learning here?
How am I reacting to the incident?
Why am I reacting that way?
How would I like myself to react if similar things occur again?
These questions will help us intentionally learn from the expected AND the unexpected, understand more about ourselves and guide us to live more fulfilling lives.
There's so much to explore in the world.
It is easy for us to get used to the day-to-day things happening around us. But when we really open our eyes, we will realise how much we have missed out.
Learn from everything.