“Experience teaches nothing, but evaluated experience teaches everything”
~ John C. Maxwell
Once in a while, bad things happen to us. We might suffer. We might feel upset. But most of us would say it's just bad luck.
But when bad things happen over and over again, then it is no longer bad luck but is the result of bad thinking processes.
As Einstein has once said, 'We can't solve problems by using the same kind of thinking we used when we created them.'
In order to develop better thinking, we need to rely on reflection. Reflection is not a sexy word and it certainly isn't an easy task. It is often at the bottom of our priority list as it takes time, energy, and the courage to admit that we did wrong. To admit that our judgements are after all flawed at times.
But it is a necessary process to take in order to avoid suffering again, to change and to grow.