‘The most beautiful people we have known are those who have known defeat, known suffering, known struggle, known loss and have found their way out of the depths. These persons have an appreciation, a sensitivity and an understanding of life that fills them with compassion, gentleness and deep loving concern. Beautiful people do not just happen.’-Dr. Elisabeth Kübler-Ross
Though I have had struggles and defeats in life, my experiences are by no means ‘difficult’ compared with many others around me. But to become ‘beautiful’ doesn’t mean we have to be on the verge of dying or undergo extreme suffering. What Dr. Elisabeth Kübler-Ross is trying to do is to shift our perspectives on suffering, as very often what comes out on the other end is beautiful. It’s the ability to empathise.
It is inevitable that we will all face some sort of suffering and defeat at some point in our lives and it is not till then that we can truly see our limitations. These experiences allow to see beyond the problem at face value and be able to comprehend the needs of others.
Make good use of your defeats, practice understanding other people’s situation in our community, workplace, family.
We can all become more beautiful.