Making Stuff

There's something about using our pair of hands. Something good about making things that brings us alive and satisfies our soul.

We now live in a world where we are consumers rather than creators. We can get anything we want, anytime we want with just a click of a button. We have somehow lose touch with our creativity and the ability to generate ideas.

Try making something today; be it a new dish, a small card, or even a blog post. See if you feel that something in you.

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Not just Bad Luck

“Experience teaches nothing, but evaluated experience teaches everything”

~ John C. Maxwell

Once in a while, bad things happen to us. We might suffer. We might feel upset. But most of us would say it's just bad luck.

But when bad things happen over and over again, then it is no longer bad luck but is the result of bad thinking processes.

As Einstein has once said, 'We can't solve problems by using the same kind of thinking we used when we created them.'

In order to develop better thinking, we need to rely on reflection. Reflection is not a sexy word and it certainly isn't an easy task. It is often at the bottom of our priority list as it takes time, energy, and the courage to admit that we did wrong. To admit that our judgements are after all flawed at times.

But it is a necessary process to take in order to avoid suffering again, to change and to grow.

 

 

Exciting stuff!

My great friend Rachel has just started a new blog!

Rach claimed that I inspired her. I'm sure many others did too. But I guess she just thought if I could do it (with tonnes of rookie errors and insights that are yet to be further developed), she could probably share her thoughts to the world too!

Check out her blog here! It's amazing!

My previous post on: Why you should blog.

Just Sing

Have you ever wonder when two people are having exactly the same experience, one might enjoy it so much more whilst the other completely hate it. What sort of mindset separates them? How come different people would have completely different feedback regarding the same thing.

Back in school, I joined something called the Duke of Edinburgh Award.

To obtain the Gold award, one has to complete the following sections:

I know that's a long list of activities to complete in one year. On top of that, I was probably out of my mind at the time and did not anticipate walking 80-96 kilometers over the course of a four day / three night expedition in the wilderness.

On the first day, I literally thought I was not going to survive the journey. After navigating, hiking and treading 20 kilometres of mountains and hills, with over 16 pounds worth of supply and tents, we finally arrived our first campsite, which was actually in the middle of nowhere. We didn't think much but just built our tents on somewhere that looked flat. We then cooked our own food and the water took forever to boil. Finally, you got to cramp in a small tent with three other people. As I laid down my sore, sweaty body (no shower of course), hoping for a nice rest, it turned out the piece of grass had three dried, harden cow poo on it. My back felt like it was punched after a full night's sleep.

So you get the idea. Our lives were basically just hiking, cooking and sleeping. We lived to survive. Dragging our bodies along just to get to the end.

That's one way of looking at the journey. That was the way I looked at it at the time.

But recently I have learnt something.

Singing.

Singing changes our hearts and minds. It can somehow make everything seemingly better. It allows us to enjoy the journey in a different light. An art in which to make the process a valuable experience instead of simply aiming to reach the goal or the destination.

Our lives are a bit like the Duke of Edinburgh Journey. We didn't anticipate it to be full of challenges and obstacles. We cannot make the trail shorter, or make the weather better; those are external factors. But whatever it is that you are faced with, just sing. In no time, we will arrive our destination.

How to know yourself better

Vygotsky, a famous cognitive psychologist:

“An interpersonal process is transformed into an intrapersonal one. Every function in the child’s cultural development appears twice: first, on the social level, and later, on the individual level; first, between people…, and then inside the child…. All the higher [mental] functions originate as actual relations between human individuals” (1978, p.57).”

 

That’s why I started writing.

Writing do both things to us. Be it a blog or a journal of some sort.

First, you need to make being observant a habit.

Since starting the blog, I realised that I pay more attention to things and stories that are happening around me since I had to constantly look for materials to write about.

Second, you need to reflect on what you have observed.

Then come up with your own interpretation and thoughts on the thing you observed.

 

By being more aware of what’s happening externally, it stimulated me to think internally.

By looking out, I am also looking in.

Understanding oneself is the most important thing we can do for ourselves in order to really live a life that satisfies us. After all, we have only got one chance for this one.

Classical Music for Everyone

Classical music has always given me the impression that it is only reserved for well-cultured, rich and most of all, boring old people. However, classical music lovers have long been trying to make the music more accessible to everyone.

The Proms

Promenade concerts had existed in London’s pleasure gardens since the mid 18th century. However, tickets to the concerts were unaffordable to the general public at the time. So in 1895, Robert Newman, a businessman and musical impresario decided to offer low ticket prices and an informal atmosphere where eating, drinking and even smoking were permitted for everyone.

He stated his aim of starting the Proms in 1894 as follows:

I am going to run nightly concerts and train the public by easy stages. Popular at first, gradually raising the standard until I have created a public for classical and modern music.

So there we go, the birth of the Proms which is an eight-week summer season of daily orchestral classical music concerts held annually in the Royal Albert Hall, in London, UK.

Nowadays, the Proms tickets can go up to £100 and need to book months in advance. Nonetheless, the practice of ‘Promming’ is an essential part of the Proms, and a unique tradition. For years, promenaders have embraced the experience of queuing for cheap standing tickets for the evening’s concert. They no longer need to physically queue for the 1,350 standing tickets that would be released on the day of the concert, thanks to the internet.

My Experience

During my visit in the UK, my sister and I happened to get tickets to one of the Proms.

Indeed, Newman’s idea of making it accessible was lived out and carried on. As we entered the hall, and up in the gallery, people were camping out, lying on the floor. Some even brought yoga mats and had a mini picnic before the concert started. It really did make classical music more casual and accessible. As the orchestra stroke the chords, music filled the entire grandiose hall.

The beauty of music is that every one in the hall, no matter their age, gender, background, were listening to the same piece, same note, same melody. Music has this strange power of bringing people together.

If you do get a chance to visit London in the summer, do check out the BBC Proms. It’s worth it.

For more information about the Proms

http://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/articles/1sgMxZvFzHQG3Y1HktMfg6w/history-of-the-proms

Cove

cove
[kohv]
noun
1 a small indentation or recess in the shoreline of a sea, lake, or river.
2 a sheltered nook.
(From dictionary.com)

Cove, a safe shelter to rest.
We all need it; physically, mentally and emotionally. Take time to take care of yourself.

Also Mother Nature always has a way to bring us peace. 🙂

Cliff view of Lulworth Cove, Dorset, Summer 2017


Beach view of Lulworth Cove, Dorset, Summer 2017


Salted Caramel Clotted Ice Cream, Lulworth, Dorset, Summer 2017

Thank you for recommending this place. Even though it was so rural I had to wait over 1.5 hours for the bus. It was worth it. If you visit, do try the salted caramel clotted ice cream. I went for back for seconds.

Enjoy!

Two ounces of love

The scientific method has long been used as a framework to understand the world.

This method of thinking has indeed helped many, in various sorts of areas. It starts with observation, then you spot something out, come up with a prediction which we call hypothesis. Then here comes the interesting part; one would design experiments to test the hypothesis. Sometimes, or shall I say if one is lucky, conclusions could be drawn straight away. But most of the time, we fail, modify the experiment or the hypothesis until we can finally draw conclusions.

However, this method has its flaws.

If one were to ask you 'How many meters does someone love you?' or 'Please give me ten kilograms of happiness.', you would find their requests slightly silly.

The world is constantly asking us to put a number next to everything and it is indeed tempting to quantify things around us. But certain rubrics might not be a true reflection of what you are measuring, especially if that something is somewhat unmeasurable.

Let it go

Thoughts arouse from a conversation with my sista

We all have bits of ourselves that we hope to change. It could be a bad habit, an unsatisfied relationship, an unfulfilling job.
If we work hard enough, some of them could be changed for the better.

But some are not possible to change. The past, no matter how hard we try, cannot be changed. I have yet to meet someone who can do that.

It is hard to let go of things we can't change and move on. But sometimes, we just need to let it go.

I'm still learning.